How to Use a Strap On Harness for Beginners

Quick Answer

Start with a well-fitting harness and a silicone dildo with a flared base. Adjust the straps snugly, attach the dildo through the O-ring, and practice solo before partner play.

Step-by-Step Guide to Using a Strap On Harness

1. 1. Adjust the harness to your waist: Loosen all straps, then wrap the harness around your waist. Tighten the belt so it sits snugly just above your hips—not so loose that it slides, and not so tight that it digs in. Common mistake: skipping the hip-level adjustment. A harness worn too low or too high will wobble.
2. 2. Attach the dildo through the O-ring: Insert the flared base of the dildo through the O-ring from the inside of the harness. Push until the base sits flat against the ring. The shaft should point outward. Checkpoint: If the dildo can rotate freely in the ring, tighten the O-ring screw or choose a ring that fits the base more snugly.
3. 3. Secure the dildo with the harness straps: Some harnesses have additional straps that loop around the dildo base. If yours does, fasten them to lock the toy in place. If not, the O-ring tension alone should hold it. Common mistake: forgetting to fasten extra straps. A loose dildo can pop out mid-play.
4. 4. Practice solo movements: Wear the harness alone for a few minutes. Walk, squat, and thrust gently to feel how the harness and dildo move. Adjust strap tension if needed. Checkpoint: If the harness shifts more than an inch during movement, tighten the straps or reposition the belt.
5. 5. Use plenty of lubricant: Apply a generous amount of water-based lube to the dildo and your partner's body. Reapply as needed to keep things comfortable and reduce friction. Common mistake: using silicone lube with silicone toys. Stick to water-based to avoid damaging the dildo surface.
6. 6. Start slow and communicate: Begin with gentle thrusts and check in with your partner frequently. Let them control the pace by placing a hand on your hip or guiding the dildo. Checkpoint: If your partner tenses up or asks you to stop, pause and adjust angle or speed. Pain is not normal.
7. 7. Clean everything after use: Remove the dildo from the harness. Wash the silicone dildo with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Wipe down the harness with a damp cloth and let it air dry. Common mistake: leaving the dildo attached to the harness while cleaning. Bacteria can hide in the crevices of the O-ring.

Product Facts

• Romp Piccolo 5" Pegging Kit Silicone Dildo: The Romp Piccolo 5" Pegging Kit includes a non-realistic silicone dildo and an adjustable harness, with a 5-inch curved shaft and flared base. The flared base keeps the dildo secure in the harness, and the curve targets the G-spot or prostate during pegging.

  

• Me You Us Purple Adjustable Harness: The Me You Us Purple Adjustable Harness fits most waist sizes and is made from 100% polyester, with an O-ring to attach a dildo. Its adjustable straps let you dial in a custom fit, and the polyester material is durable and easy to wipe clean.